Hi there! I’m Vanessa (a.k.a Nessa), the owner and author of Adulting with Nessa. 🙂 I am here to encourage and enlighten as many people as I can with my advice on adulting — how to survive in the adult world. As I have reached the ripe old age of 23, I feel that I have had plenty of life experiences from which can be rendered constructive advice… Because I’ve messed up and done brainless things…Quite a few times. I want to help people prevent themselves from making the same dumb mistakes I have, in everything from finding motivation to do anything to planning a wedding (because I am married after all.) I also hope to give bits of helpful tips and tricks to living an awesome, happy life!
I loooooove love, so I am probably sappy and annoying at times, and for that all I have to say is sorry not sorry. 😉
As I mentioned before, I am married, but to the most awesome, loving, kind, fun, attractive, poser-country-boy in the world, Troy. (He’s got a great singing voice, hopefully sometime I can catch him singing along with Josh Turner or Randy Travis.) We’ve been married since March 1, 2014 (got married at 19 years old, phwew 😁), and I have had the best time of my life being married to him.
I’ve had my share of body-image struggles in the past, which I blame on my naturally curly hair, fairly athletic build — not straight hair and a skinny bod — and desire to be seen as perfect to those around me (instilled by my mom, who got it from her mom, who got it from her mom and so on..) I struggled with what I would say was a small case of bulimia in my late high school years and found that it truly had zero positive affects on the body, and purely negative affects on the mind. BUT over the past few years I am proud to boast that I have had SO much progress in overcoming the demons in my physical/mental life, and hope to also share some of the ways I was able to succeed in doing so. I also refuse to pass that mindset on to my future children ( which will require the right mindset and effort!)
That being said, I love working out and eating as healthy as possible (at least I try my best to, but it’s hard living with someone who loves taco truck burritos.) I’ve never competed in any fitness competitions, and don’t think I ever will. The burrito loving hubs does not approve of me parading on a stage in next to nothing, showing off the body he covets. 😉 Quite frankly, I’m not sure I would want to either, however I respect and admire the gals that succeed and doing so. I also like to bake, make, and eat treats every so often, and that doesn’t necessarily work out with the fitness model diet. 😉 Example A, shown below.
I used to be pretty shy and super awkward, but lately I’ve noticed that I’m pretty awkward and a little outgoing… I’ve made progress at least.
One of the hardest things I’ve experienced in my life so far was losing my Grandpa Bob. He had an aneurysm of sorts shortly before my wedding day, and was hospitalized for about four months before succumbing to the after affects of what I blame on a poorly executed surgery/procedure, that was intended to reverse the effect of the aneurysm… He was also a very independent man, and I don’t think he wanted to live in the condition he was in any longer. To this day it puts a lump in my throat to think about him being out of my life and gone from the world, but (as cliché as it sounds) I am confident that I will be seeing him again one day, in perfect form, when we are reunited in Heaven. Even with the encouragement of knowing that, I can’t listen to Brad Paisley’s song, “When I Get Where I’m Going,” because it makes me cry in anticipation of that moment. But still, it’s a wonderful thing to have a confidence in an even better life after the one we live here on earth!
That is another thing I hold near and dear to my heart, my relationship with and faith in God.
I’m also a college drop out, aspiring business owner, huge family person and lover of all things adventure.
Adulting is hard on the young, maturing, aspiring adult, but with a little work and some motivation, together we can make it out on top!
Thanks again for visiting!